“If you listen for hurt, fear, and pain or for people’s hopes and dreams, it is nearly always there….” new MJ Awakening pic quote
September 16, 2017

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“If you listen for hurt, fear, and pain or for people’s hopes and dreams, it is nearly always there. And when the other person feels you listening and FEELING them, they will let down their guard and open their minds and hearts to you.”

-Edwin Shneidman, founder, L.A. Suicide Prevention Center

MICHAEL: Can I really listen from open presence or am I listening from “ego”?

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As I work with individuals one-on-one, the #1 thing I do is…
February 10, 2014

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As I work with individuals one-on-one, the #1 thing I do is LISTEN from a space of PRESENCE. I often begin my sessions by saying, “You have my FULL attention, please share with me whatever is on your mind.” And then I be quiet. This non-judgmental space allows the person to share openly and freely… and at some level, oftentimes that is all we really want is to be genuinely heard by another.

Yes, I do jump in with comments if/when I sense/feel/intuit a transparent belief that may be running (a belief that the person unconsciously holds as “the truth” and so does not see it as a belief, but “the way it actually is”). Together, we take a look at this belief and see if it is actually “the Truth” (which cannot be contained by ANY single perspective!), or merely one view point? (Not wrong or right, just extremely narrow and painful as long as we insist on holding on to it.)

Often during our time together the person will begin to mirror my stillness and the two of us will just naturally and spontaneously go “radio-silent,” and become still. And from this place of stillness, right here and now, I ask them if they can find any problems? Sometimes, almost begrudgingly, they exclaim, “no!” And we laugh…

-Michael Jeffreys

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