The imaginary “me” imagines the more it KNOWS the more CONTROL it has. New MJ Awakening Blog
February 4, 2020


WHAT IS doesn’t leave room for personal control. And yet the “me” imagines it has some control. And it does this through KNOWLEDGE.

The more it “knows” the more control it imagines it has. But knowledge, definitions and concepts are part of the dream of separation; as such they do not control the dream but appear to make the “me” more comfortable within its imaginary conceptual prison.

What the “me” doesn’t know is that it never existed. All is nondual means that duality has only ever been a dream… a dream that never happened.

-Michael Jeffreys

The Insight that Everything is made out of CHANGE. New MJ Awakening Blog
January 1, 2020


LINDSAY: Another question, how do you let it be if it evokes a feeling inside of fear or negativity? I have a harder time with these…

MICHAEL: Can you give an example?

LINDSAY: Fearful thought of not being able to breathe or thoughts that cause physical sensations in body that are unpleasant. It is harder to let them be because they seem to command your attention or make you feel the need to distract or fix them.

MICHAEL: The insight Lindsay is that whatever is happening for the moment is what is happening for the moment, but only for the moment because everything is made out of change.

So if a fearful thought is arising or an unpleasant bodily sensations seems to be happening, then for the moment that’s what’s happening. But it’s not going to stay that. And if a thought arises that wishes that this wasn’t happening, then that is what is appearing as the moment…. but it’s not going to stay that. And if resistance arises to the bodily sensation, then that is what’s happening and is not separate from the moment. But (say it with me! 🙂 ), “it’s not going to stay that.”

You see? You can never get out in front of whatever is happening because there is only whatever appears to be happening. The illusion is that there’s a “me” separate from what’s happening and that it can control what’s happening.

However, again, there is only whatever is happening. So if it feels like the “me” is there and is trying to control what is arising, than that is what’s happening. And if you feel clear and peaceful, then that is what’s happening. There’s only ever what’s happening, however it’s appearing as the moment, and no one is “doing” it. And because no one is doing it, there is no right way or wrong way to “do” the moment. There is simply the eternal unfolding of Infinity.

Remember that the river of Life is ALWAYS moving, so it never stays the same. This can be helpful to keep in mind whenever we feel like we’re stuck… Thoughts can start to tell a story about how unfair it is or bad things seems to be. But again, the reality is things never stay the same and the truth is “This too shall pass.”

The illusion of Control: You can’t stop what you’re not doing. New MJ Awakening Blog
December 31, 2019

the illusion of control calvin and hobbes

You can’t stop what you’re not doing.

-Michael Jeffreys

LINDSAY: Do you mind elaborating?

MICHAEL: It’s pointing to the illusion of control. Almost everyone assumes that the thoughts in the head are “theirs.” But if you really could control your thoughts, you could tell them to stop and they would instantly stop. Or, you could tell them to only be positive and they would instantly obey. But the fact is we do not control our thoughts. That being the case, what to do?

The answer is something most find unacceptable. Do nothing. Simply let them be. Realize that like a dream, all is happening spontaneously, by itself. Thus we become a witness rather than a doer. Like watching a movie. You can’t crawl inside the screen and change anything about the movie that’s playing at your local cinema, likewise you cannot change whatever is presently appearing. By the time its showing up, it’s already on it’s way to changing into the next frame…

What’s more, if you take the time to look, can you actually find the one who is reacting to the thoughts in the head? And if you can’t find anyone, than “who” is reacting to the thoughts in the head? 

LINDSAY: Thank you! I can witness and then I feel like I forget and am caught up in movie again. Will I ever get it?? 

MICHAEL: Will “who” get it!? 

LINDSAY: no doubt!! 😀 


Q: What do I get when I try to control the uncontrollable? New MJ Awakening Blog
January 16, 2019


A: Constant frustration and suffering.

Q: What do I get when I try to control the uncontrollable?

Michael Jeffreys

The dream itself dictates 100% what ALL the dream characters within the dream do and think… New MJ Awakening Blog
August 14, 2017

Consider your last sleeping dream. There was a character, the star of the dream, “you”!, that was seemingly doing all kinds of things within the dream and experiencing all kinds of experiences, some pleasurable and some not pleasurable.

Looking from your present awakened state here/now, what independent power did this dream character ever actually possess?

None. The dream itself dictates 100% what ALL the dream characters within the dream do and don’t do, what appears to exist and what doesn’t appear to exist, what appears to happen and what doesn’t appear to happen, etc.

However, imagine if part of the dream character’s make-up/design included a sense of free-will/autonomy. That within the dream it imagined it could do whatever it wanted by controlling if not the entire dream, at least certain portions of it.

Now, the truth is the dream character is not separate from the dream and thus it is not possible for it to do anything except for what the dream dictates, i.e., what happens next in the dream!

You can further Imagine how much suffering this dream character would be experiencing if it thought/believed otherwise, i.e., that it did indeed have power over the dream in some way, shape or form.

Now, let’s imagine even further that you could enter your next sleeping dream and tell the star of the dream, this dream character “you,” that in fact it is not real, only a dream character, and thus it has no free will whatsoever and never did!

What do you think its reaction would be? Would it just suddenly believe you, or more likely would it argue and insist that it does have free will because it was taught it does (“Your responsible for your actions.”), and more importantly, because it thinks/feels/believes it does?

And suppose you explained to it that that too is part of the dream. That this sense of having free will/control is built into the dream character, just like its hair color, height, skin color, etc.

Would it believe you?

Probably not.

Michael Jeffreys

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