Note that this new way of being takes practice, as the old habit of resisting feelings is deeply ingrained. More on consciously being with our feelings from Sri Summairu:
“We are so closed off from our feelings, that we shut down when others show emotions. Their emotions remind us of our own, it’s too close to home. We don’t have compassion or empathy for others because that would require us to feel the emotions within ourselves that another is feeling within themselves and connect with them in that feeling. A heart connection is not possible any other way, so we throw concepts at them, to get them to feel better, to get them to cover it up, to get them to stop feeling.
We don’t see the value of feeling, so we try to fix feelings by numbing them. And because we cannot remain present with someone in their feelings, there is no connection with others. There is no connection to life, which happens through our hearts, which is where oneness is experienced as an alive essence of being.
Oneness cannot be perceived without a heart connection. The first illusion of separation happens in the disconnect from our own feeling nature. Thus, believing our thoughts, that we are somehow separate from life, wouldn’t be possible if we were connected to life at a heart level.”
-Sri Summairu