From Dictionary.com:
“LOVE (noun)
1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
3. sexual passion or desire.”
Notice how “LOVE” is defined as having passionate feelings towards a particular person, feeling or desire. This is what I call “particularizing” and ironically, it actually leads you away from LOVE. Why? Because LOVE isn’t any particular thing… it’s EVERYTHING. LOVE is all that is, so if we believe it’s in some person, feeling or desire, we also must believe it is not already all that is.
-Michael Jeffreys