The thought that “it should not be” is seen as an invitation to suffer… new MJ Awakening Blog


One thing I can share that I have noticed that’s different in me and has made a big difference in ending unnecessary suffering: I no longer believe whatever is happening should not be happening.

So, for example, in the past if my neighbors played loud music or video games, thoughts (conditioning) would come, “Oh, that is not being a good neighbor, I would never do that… now I can’t get any work done, blah, blah, blah…” and now, it’s barely noticed.

The difference is, now, the idea that what’s actually happening should not be happening seems insane.

It’s simply what is and so the thought that “it should not be” is seen as an invitation to suffer.

-Michael Jeffreys

Comment/Question from my Facebook Awakening Community

TOM: So from the quiet mind that doesn’t see it as a problem, the thought may arise, “let’s get some noise reduction headphones.”
Any idea where that thought and the subsequent steps in that direction may come from?

MICHAEL: And then THAT will be what’s happening. And you either will get some n/c headphones or you won’t. You can never escape what IS… but if you believe a thought that claims otherwise, you may eventually find yourself suffering. And then, that will be what’s happening… you cannot both truly accept the moment as it is AND try to control it… and yet, that too can seemingly happen! It’s a living paradox.

TOM: I see. However the moment when I actually get the headphones has not arrived yet. There is only the thought. And then as you say the headphones either will or won’t be procured — there is no “me” to decide or make it happen. It just seems so clear that a result or future event that has me getting the headphones was “caused” or influenced by the earlier thought. And if it wasn’t, or it was unrelated, why would that thought arise? Thought is such an obviously significant occurrence in certain ways that even if I disregard it in some instances as you describe–to avoid what IS happening and think that it shouldn’t be–that when it emanates from presence or quiet it certainly seems to lead to an “improvement” in circumstances. Even Eckhart says that the Ego evolved with a purpose (survival) but we have distorted its importance. And you say that seeing the mind as a “servant” is of value — so I guess I am wondering whether we can cut the mind some slack and admit that it can “lead to” positive results which may not have occurred absent the prior thought?

MICHAEL:It just seems so clear that a result or future event that has me getting the headphones was “caused” or influenced by the earlier thought.

That may or may not be so, but you didn’t create that thought either, which is what you have to believe if you believe in cause and effect. The “you” you imagine yourself to be is the cause or source of what is presently happening. This needs to be deeply investigated… and if you in fact cannot find a separate entity, then you have to be honest with your findings (rather than beholden to your worldly, learned conditioning/beliefs).



2 Responses

  1. In the movie of life, played through time, the character Tom thinks ‘I have to get some headphones’. It does look as if the the thought came after the noise and was the cause of it. However, the movie could just as well been edited with the thought scene coming before the noise!

  2. The thought that “this shouldn’t be happening” is supposed to happen otherwise it wouldn’t have happened to you in the first place…. Likewise If you think something shouldn’t be happening then thats exactly how your thoughts “should” be otherwise that thought wouldn’t have occurred either!

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